Welcome back to my blog everyone! This is definitely going to be a multiple post series, so we’ll call this Part 1.
As I’m getting older (I sound like I’m just a bag of bones already but I’m only 21 🤣) it’s evident you need to have certain skills in your life in order to succeed. Some of these skills come naturally as you go through life and mature, and some you need to buckle down and put in the work to learn yourself.
Today’s post won’t cover every single valuable skill you need to have, but it will cover some I feel are important and is a good basis to start with for Part 1.
- Learn how to say “NO”
This is something I’m currently learning. I love helping people, and I believe that it’s GREAT to be kind, helpful, and loving to everyone you meet because you never know what someone is going through! So when people ask for my help, I feel SO bad for saying no or even wanting to say no, because I don’t want others to dislike me, think I’m just too busy for them or don’t care, or have no one else to turn to if I can’t help. But what I’ve been trying to learn lately is that it’s OKAY to say no sometimes, it’s actually encouraged! You cannot carry the entire weight of the world on your shoulders. Your shoulders aren’t that big. Even if you’ve been lifting. 💁♀️
You need time to do stuff for you, let your mind rest, and learn how to even utter the words “no”. Plus, if you do say no, the world won’t stop turning. If that person needed help and they’re reasonable, they should be able to understand you can’t handle anything else at the moment, but that you do care about them.
2. On the flip side of this, it’s okay to be TOLD no
Rejection hurts. Whether it be friends turning on you, a boyfriend breaking up with you over text (@ all 2 of my ex’s), or the dream job you’ve worked so hard for and they didn’t want you….it hurts! Why weren’t you good enough? What did you do wrong? What could you have done be-
Let me stop you right there! While it’s good to think back and reflect on things you know you could’ve done better and learn from that, you can’t dwell on it and let it crush you! You are a BOSS, period. Some things just aren’t meant to be. Better things are coming your way. So take your losses and rejections, let yourself feel the emotions, and boss up. It’s okay. It doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you, it means that wasn’t the time and place for you to be. Learn from it!
3. Time Management
So your boss wants you to finish up an important document by tonight, but your friend you haven’t seen in forever wants to go grab a drink. If you had good time management skills, you would tell your friend you couldn’t grab a drink tonight, but maybe another night would work better. If you had bad time management skills, you might go out for the drink anyways, get a liiiiiiittle too drunk to finish the document, and fail your boss, which leads to you getting in trouble and potentially getting fired. And who wants that?
Time management is not only important with a career, but also with your social life, education, relationships, etc. You need to make sure you spend your time wisely, and that you put the most important and deadline-looming things first. That being said, if you are over-consumed with work and aren’t giving your SO or friends any quality time, that’s not very good time management either! They need love too, not just your job. That is actually a big reason why some couples have issues is because work consumes one of their lives, and the other is left feeling abandoned. Yes, work IS important, get those deadlines done, but sometimes work can push you too hard and you need to step in and say “Hey, this is too much right now, can I get a deadline pushed back a day?”
Learn how to talk to others-this may seem simple, and looking at it in words it is, but it’s harder than it sounds. Communication means all aspects of it, such as having the hard and uncomfortable talks with someone when there’s a problem. Learn how to talk through problems and not argue-there’s a difference. Communicate how you feel and why you feel this way by being open and honest.
For me, sometimes I avoid certain topics of conversation because I know I’ll get emotional- whether that be because I’m upset, or just because it’s an emotional/sensitive topic, or because I’m a big crybaby sometimes (lol). However, it’s important to talk through things even if they may bring up emotions. If you hold things in, it’ll be pushed back further and further until one day it’ll just all explode out and turn into a big argument, which is by far worse than it could’ve been.
p.s. I’m a Communication Major, so if any of y’all ever want to talk about Communications with me just shoot me a DM on Instagram or leave me a comment on my blog posts!
5. Budgeting! (money movessss)
How are you going to do anything if you are reckless with your money? It’s seriously such a turn off for me if you don’t know how to control your money. It’s one thing to go on a shopping spree every once in a while, but if you are always doing so and never have money in your account or have ANY type of savings account at all……what are you doing??
No matter how young or old you are, if you don’t have a savings account, DO IT NOW! Start saving however much you can. Make a monthly budget starting with all of your expenses you have to pay. After that, start including your expenses like grocery allowance, gas allowance, going out to eat allowance, etc. and adjust as needed. Don’t go over what you allow yourself to have!
6. Take Accountability for Yourself
This is important-if you don’t take accountability for yourself and your actions, you can’t improve on yourself. You have to be honest with yourself and accept criticism. Trust me, I don’t take criticism well either-especially if it’s coming from people close to me-however it’s important to listen with an open heart and mind and know they mean well.
Take any criticism and use it to build on yourself and improve what you need to. No one is perfect, and it’s okay to admit you’re not either! This is what taking accountability is all about-understanding and admitting you have work to do to be the best you can be, and taking the steps to do for yourself and your loved ones.
7. Write (a Resume)
Writing in general is a great skill that you need to take hold of in life, even if you think your dream job won’t utilize much writing. Things such as punctuation, grammar, and spelling can be game changers, and one mistake can make you go from looking professional and polished to looking like you don’t care.
When it comes to careers, resumes are HIGHLY important and you need to learn how to write them and what specific skills you have so you can brag on yourself 😉 Really hone in on your skills and know how to accentuate them to make you stand out in the best way possible.
Not to mention, writing can help you feel less pressure of day to day life-such as journaling. Learn how to express yourself and what you truly feel in words. Use unique and eloquent words that flow across the page, and makes you feel less stressed.
8. How to Clean Your House and Work Space
Okay, is anyone else like an organized messy person?? Because I am. It’s a thing, trust me. Anyways, if you’re just a MESSY messy person, then you need to learn how to somewhat be organized in life! It’s going to be super stressful living your life and never knowing where anything is, because you can never put things back where you left it. Not to mention, if you do this at a job, it can come off as super unprofessional.
Have a day a week where you go through your room/house/apartment/work space/whatever space you have and pick up any messes, put things back where they go, etc. I PROMISE it will help you feel less cluttered physically and emotionally and it will make you a more functional human being.
Thanks for reading Part 1! I hope you enjoyed and as always, leave a comment down below telling me what you think 🔽🔽
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